From Conflict to Closeness: How to Fix Your Relationship

Tour romantic relationships are not perfect and thus may have some challenging time that may lead to questioning the existence of the relationship. From controversies, relativity and trust breakages to forced separations, people often find themselves wondering how do I fix my relationship? Despite the differences, there are effective ways in which conflict can be approach and closeness restored.

Understanding the Source of Conflict

The most basic requirement in solving any problem is identifying the problem in the first place; the first question to ask in fixing an ailing relationship is; ‘What is wrong?’ Quite frequently, difficulties occur in relationships because the individuals fail to address, or seek to address, certain issues. Stand for a while and think on what is likely to create strain in the relationship. Is it a one off situation, that may include for example betrayal or misunderstanding? Or is it an accumulation of minor problems, which have always remained unresolvable or unresolved?

Often, people often react to a problem without knowing the cause, which means that you are trying to solve the symptoms instead of the cause of the matter. This is very important in one’s attempt to transform his or her relationship for the better.

 Communicate with Empathy

It is worth admitting that communication remains one of the essential elements in any relations while still being one of the main aspects people neglect as soon as the appeared issues. That is why before starting to work on a relationship’s salvation, you and your partner should sit down and begin to speak frankly. Yet it is not only the focus on speech – it is the focus on the speech of another yet being able to see their point of view.

When talking about certain aspects, it is pivotal not to point fingers at your partner. In its place, integrate ‘I’ message to convey how you feel and what worries you. For instance instead of using such statements as ‘You always’, ‘You never’ use statements such as ‘I feel angered when’, or ‘It pains me when’.

Listening carefully to your partner’s side is also another thing that has to be considered during a conflict. Try and find out how you can meet their needs without interrupting and without disapproval. When your display empathy, the person feels that you respect their feelings wishing to sort out the problem.

 Rebuild Trust and Respect

To have a healthy relationship, trust is an essential factor and conflict and betrayal can do extreme harm to the relationship. Trust has to be reconstructed, and it does not happen immediately, though it is a critical step in transiting from conflict to connectedness. Once trust has been violated, there is a responsibility on part of both organisations being completely forthright in the future.

Consider the question: how do you address your relationship problems with trust? What measures can be taken with a view of finding a means of rebuilding that trust? It might mean marking new lines that you and your partner do not cross, being more predictable in your behavior, or just being there for your partner when they need you.

Respect is equally important. It is also important that husbands and wives maintain civility even when they are correcting each other so that they honor each other. The recognition of the need for privacy, right for different opinions and individual need is something that will help restore and rebuild the link between you two.

 Moving on and Not Holding Grudges

Apologies is another major concern when trying to repair a broken relationship; changing is not easy especially if one has hurt the other in the past. But if one harbors animosity and bile, then they remain prisoners of the animosity. Forgiveness is one of those events that I believe are so important in the process of healing, not something that is done in a snap.

There is a considerable difference, for instance, between accepting an apology and then secretly desiring that your partner should suffer because of the wrong they did to you. Thus, the emphasis should be placed on the potential of future and on what can contribute both sides to the improvement of the partnership. This doesn’t mean you have to forget what happened, but it does mean cutting loose the negative feelings which prevent you from going on.

When you constantly wonder how to fix your relationship, then you should take responsibility if you are not willing to let go of grudges that will not allow the relationship to heal. It’s not a virtue which is only given to the other but a way of liberating yourself from the clutches of bitterness.

 Reconnect Through Quality Time

Last but not least, if you managed to solve the existing conflicts and have already began the process of trust restoration, now, it’s time to regain the interpersonal touch. One quality time is the best way to bring the bond tighter and develop a new happy memory to cherish. Watching the same show or going out on a date helps you and your partner get back to the normal and healthy communication and makes you feel like you are in love again.

The question you should be answering in the dynamics of your daily interactions is “How do I solve it?” It may also be significant to ask; are you committing enough time for each other? Is love being expressed, on your part through appreciation? Driving each other to a date should be compliment with something sweet, which should help in the restoration of the affection that was lost.

Seek Professional Help if Needed

There are some situations when no matter how much both parties try they cannot find a way to save a relationship. But if you have reached the point of indecision or paralysis, do not hesitate to consult a specialist. A relationship counsellor or a therapist will be able to direct you and offer you, and resources for dealing with a particular set of problems.

Oh, by the way, one must not forget that it is also perfectly fine to seek assistance. Pandering project can now be defined as a desperate call for professional help, which is not actually wrong but rather a confirmation of that you want your relationship to work.

 Conclusion

Still, people can travel from one level, conflict, to another, from the stage of being far from one another to being close-knit, if one tries and sweats a lot, and if one loves the other. Thus, if you find yourself asking ‘‘How do I fix my relationship?’’, you can stop and confidently state ‘‘We’ve got through this and are stronger than ever. ’’